Credit hours:
2.50

Course Summary

For youth in care, placement in care often brings complicated feelings of shame, relief, or guilt. In order to effectively serve and provide for young people, we need to help them recognize their grief and meet them where they are in their grieving process. Gain knowledge and tools to help your child cope with feelings of grief and ambiguous loss through this course.

In this course, you can expect to learn:

  • About ambiguous loss and complicated grief
  • Unique challenges foster youth face through the grieving process
  • Understand how grief and trauma can manifest in a young person's behavior
  • Strategies a young person can use to cope with ambiguous loss and/or grief

Step 1

Watch the following video "Best Practices for Grief: Foster Care Placement," this video is a part of a series examining grief and loss experiences of children and teens, and was selected because of the valuable introduction it provides about young peoples' grief in foster care:

Step 2

The effects of grief that children in foster care experience vary by the developmental age of the child. Review the following article published by Fostering Perspectives, "The Effects of Grief and Loss on Children in Foster Care", to learn what grief signs to be aware of for all children.

Step 3

Review the following article "Ambiguous Loss Haunts Foster and Adopted Children", to learn about the inevitable loss a young person experiences during their foster care experience (sometimes over and over again) and how incredibly difficult this type of grief is to process.

Step 4

Gregory Manning discusses the difference between a traditional and non-traditional loss and how the profound loss and trauma a young person in foster care experiences manifests and impacts their behaviors in the following video "Grief and Loss for Youth in Foster Care & Adoption":

Step 5

Watch Matthew's video which reflects the trauma, grief, and loss he dealt with throughout his foster care experience. 

Step 6

Review "What Young People Can Do: Healing From Loss", a simple form to help guide and validate a young person healing from loss.

Step 7

Share the "Bill of Rights for Grieving Youth in Foster Care" tool with your child. These Rights reflect the values, dreams, and aspirations of current and former foster youth suffering from tremendous loss and can be helpful to a grieving young person and/or a young person who has not yet begun the grieving process.

Step 8

Join the discussion in the comments below to answer the following question:

How can you help young people in your care suffering from grief and loss?

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Course Discussion

Courtneymiller304's picture

Courtneymiller304 said:

We can help children suffering from grief and loss by allowing them the time to process and grieve and not try to rush it. We can also help by offering resources for them if they want to utilize them, not forcing them to do something they’re not ready to do.
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LuAnn Murray said:

The idea of Ambiguous Loss was new to me. Our foster child of 2 years just lost her mother through death so we are dealing with grief on a whole new level.
DSMayes's picture

DSMayes said:

My biggest take home is to give the child or children time to grieve and not to put a time limit on their grief. They will all grieve differently even if they are from the family/situation.
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bjmchugh said:

I think that the most important thing that I could give my foster son is the space to grieve. Something that jumped out to me during the presentation is the analogy of the funeral and how adults would not be hasty to judge a peer for a breakdown moment, but when it's a child struggling with their emotions during a foster care loss, the expectations are different. That was a big aha moment for me.
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markmcnair said:

A lot of active listening.
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Alyssabutter said:

Everyone deals with grief differently and sometimes it is hard to express how you really feel so it is best to let the child grieve in their own way and help in any way that you can. This is a difficult and confusing time for them and the best thing we can do is be supportive.
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kierstynstone said:

Listen and allow the child feel how they feel and help them express in their own way.
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mattbaxter said:

Be willing to listen and allow the child time to grieve in their own way.
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BBradford15 said:

I think honesty is a major key when it comes to helping kids come along in foster care. We have had 2 kids for almost 2 years now. A girl who is nine now and a boy who is 4. We kept them up to date and were honest about everything going on in the legal process. There mom then passed away suddenly and sadly. We broke the news to them and were completely honest and open with answers on any questions they have about the loss. There have been some very tough reactions and emotions to deal with from this but I think we have built long term trust with these kids in being open and honest about the situations that have happened. We believe that leads to better long term healing instead of the alternative which would be to hide what is truly going on with there Birth family.
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dsalmans said:

We need to recognize that children coming into foster care are overwhelmed! It is our job to show these children compassion. Coming into foster care can trigger the same response as death of a family member. We need to focus on helping them feel safe to express those emotions first and then help them appropriately deal with them. It is counterproductive to try to fix the behavior first. We must allow the children to grieve in their own way.